Anal: side-by-side
Also known as anal spooningside analrelaxed anal
The side-by-side anal position has both partners lying on their sides, one behind the other — widely recommended for first-timers because it's the most relaxed, low-pressure angle.
The gist
For anal play, comfort and relaxation matter more than anything, which is why the side-lying angle is such a common starting point: nobody is holding a strenuous pose, the receiving partner can fully relax, and the shallow, gentle angle makes it easy to go slow. Plenty of warm-up and lubrication are essential.
Step by step
Both partners lie on their sides, the receiving partner in front.
Take plenty of time with warm-up and generous lubrication first.
The partner behind eases in slowly, pausing often.
The receiving partner stays relaxed and sets the entire pace.
Tips
- Go slower than you think you need to — the receiving partner should feel fully relaxed throughout.
- Use generous amounts of a body-safe lubricant, and reapply as needed.
Related
Spooning
Spooning is a side-lying, rear-facing position where both partners lie on their sides nestled together — one of the gentlest, coziest, and most relaxed options.
Anal: receiver on top
In receiver-on-top anal, the receiving partner straddles from above and controls all the depth, angle, and pace — a common recommendation for beginners because control sits entirely with the receiver.