The Lotus
Also known as yab-yumtantric seatedseated wrap
The Lotus is a face-to-face seated position where one partner sits astride the other's lap with legs and arms wrapped around them — a tantric-style pose that trades motion for closeness and stillness.
The gist
A slow, meditative position built for connection rather than pace. Sitting chest-to-chest with legs and arms encircling each other keeps faces close for kissing, eye contact, and synced breathing, while small rocking movements do most of the work. It's less about intensity and more about presence.
Step by step
One partner sits cross-legged or with legs extended on a comfortable surface.
The other settles onto their lap, facing them, and wraps their legs around behind.
Wrap arms around each other and find a slow, shared rocking rhythm.
Sync your breathing and let stillness carry the moment.
Tips
- Cushions under the seated partner take pressure off the hips and lower back for longer stays.
- This one rewards slowing down — try matching your breath before moving at all.
Related
Seated
Seated positions have one partner sitting — on a chair, edge of the bed, or the floor — with the other on their lap, wrapping the pair into close, face-to-face contact.
Cowgirl (riding)
Cowgirl is a partner-on-top position where the receiving partner sits astride and faces their partner — putting them in control of angle, depth, and pace.